No one is perfect, but if a friend or family member’s faults damage your life, it could be because they’re toxic. For anyone healing from trauma, it’s absolutely necessary to avoid toxic people. Below are six types of toxic people you must avoid:
- The Nit Picker. Some people are always looking for faults in others. If you have people in your life who can never see the good in what you do, it may be time to keep your distance. Being subjected to constant fault finding could make you doubt yourself and frustrate your trauma recovery.
- The Liar. As you travel the road to trauma recovery, you need a support system that’s dependable. Unfortunately, people who break promises, stretch the truth, and let you down can actually worsen your feelings of mistrust. If you have people in your life who make a habit of lying to you, it may be time to let them go.
- The Emotional Vampire. We all need help sometimes, but if you find that a friend or family member is always on the “being helped” end and never on the “helping” side of things, you may be dealing with an overly dependent person. Don’t allow yourself to be drained because you’ll need all of your energy to heal from your trauma. And if you find that your emotional vampire is adding very little of good to your life, it may be time to let go of that relationship.
- The Control Freak. One of the first signs you’re dealing with an abusive person is that they have a strong need to control other people. If you have a friend or relative who insists on telling you what to do, you may be dealing with a control freak. This is especially true if they get angry when you go against their wishes. As a survivor of trauma, it’s important that you do not allow control freaks to dominate your life.
- The Negative Nancy. We all get blue sometimes, but people who never have a sunny day and never see the positive side of things are real downers. As you recover from trauma, you want to avoid people who have nothing nice to say as they can help create or even worsen a depression.
- The Backstabber. Do you have a friend or relative who can’t keep a secret, talks bad about you behind your back or tries to embarrass you in front of others? If so, you’re dealing with a backstabber. Dealing with a backstabber while trying to heal from trauma can make your recovery difficult. Keep your distance from these toxic types if you want to maintain your mental health.
As you travel the road to trauma recovery, it’s critical that you recognize and avoid toxic people.